Supporting an unhealthy spouse

CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) - If your spouse or significant other has some unhealthy habits it can be hard to express your concerns without being hurtful. Dr. Tim Hope joined us to share tips on supporting your significant other during tough times.

Is there a way to help a family member lose weight without being hurtful?
That is a great question and one that is complex.

Let them start the conversation
Ideally, your loved one will bring up the topic. Be prepared to listen and be supportive. If you notice a drastic change in weight over a short period of time, ask, "Is everything OK with you lately? Is there anything I can do to help?" And listen to the answer. Put yourself in your loved one's shoes and understand their point of view.

Save Your Advice
This can be quite challenging to do: chances are your loved one knows that they are overweight, and they know that a medically-monitored diet and exercise plan is the most typical route to losing weight. They likely will feel put upon or even attacked if they are given unsolicited advice, so resist the urge and just listen.

Believe in Them but REALLY Believe
Give your loved one unconditional positive regard. In other words, you will be on their side in this challenge, no matter what. Be a friend, with no bothersome questions and with unwavering love and support and encouragement, "You can do this!"

Be a partner
If your loved one asks, consider for yourself in what ways you are willing and able to be a partner to them in the challenge of losing weight. Be a good role model. If they invite you, go to medical appointments with them, eat balanced meals together, exercise together, stay positive and cheerlead for your loved one (and yourself!), counter those negative, judgmental thoughts we all have sometimes.

Remember: If losing weight were easy, your loved one would have done it already